Anybody You Know?
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Ever find yourself sitting quietly on your favorite bench, away from the activity on the gym floor, and wondering what exactly all those people doing there? Of course not; you're healthy… but I done it regularly over the years (I'm deranged, paranoid and lonely). Who are they, where do they come and what are they doing here?
More specifically, I wonder, "why does a person go to a gym?"
1) For appearance: to look trim, cool, attractive and shapely
2) To be bad: huge and tough or sexy and foxy
3) To be healthy and vital: lean, energetic and happy
4) Out of fear or guilt: feels like a wreck or becoming one and can't stand it anymore
5) By doctor's orders: poor health due to inactivity (overweight, diabetes, failing heart)
6) To join a friend: friendly persuasion, to accommodate or please a mate
7) To socialize: make a friend, boy-girl action, join the fun, identify
8) To rehabilitate an injury or recover from an ailment
9) To conquer diminishing health, loss of muscle and strength, energy and personal control due to age or inactivity
10) To become a better person, inside and out: enthusiastic, disciplined, vital, strong-muscled and enduring
11) By virtue of personal responsibility: caring for one's health, ability and well-being
12) To improve one's abilities in other sports and recreational activities
13) To live longer and enjoy an independent and more abundant life
14) Because there's a cheering challenge and fulfillment in the tough experience of weight lifting, exercise and action. Each workout is fun (in odd and different ways, discovered day by day) and profusely rewarding.
15) Because the Mr. Big Boy or Ms. Cool Chic is coming up next month he or she's gotta get ripped
16) Because the state powerlifting, weight toss, Olympic lifting and Strongman contests are right around the corner and she wants to win all four
17) Because he's been lifting weights for 10, 20, 30, 40 years and can't stop his ongoing training any more than he can stop an oncoming train. He needs it bad.
18) To stay fit and healthy, dutifully, enjoyably, without undue labor or the miseries of letting go
19) In response to pressure from society: media, talk shows, human-resource proclamations, family and friends -- Conformity, the right thing to do
20) Because the word is out that there are invaluable benefits at one's fingertips the moment one enters the gym, from musclemaking to long life, from moral fiber to joie de vivre
Anybody you know?
Everyone is different, head to toe, fingerprint to DNA, mind to soul, personality to possibility, needs to desires, and experiences to expectations.
What are their expectations, to what level do they apply themselves, how committed are they and how committed do they become?
She's been coming for years, three or so, and has gained direction and form. When she first walked the floor, her steps were tentative and her expression was fearful. Within a month you knew this one would stick; she needed it, her face showed it, she wasn't young and exercise gave her hope. She was a bit lonely, maybe, and there was some youth returning to her eyes and to the curves on her body. This day, she appears younger, stronger, brighter and more certain.
This middle-age gal came for physical and emotional restoration and to confront and overcome some hurts and losses. You're right, what do I know? She is 10 times more a person than she was or was becoming, I can tell you that. A gym opened the door just enough to let her in and set her free. She likes being alone and moves with a sure pace and she looks good. Still don't know her name, but you like her. Let's call her Proud Mary.
Now that guy comes to the gym to unwind and rewind. He works at the American Airline counter, checking in travelers and attending their needs. Long hours, long drive, long lines, long faces -- sorry, ma'am, your flight has been cancelled. The weight room provides comfort, order, a noisy privacy and the mindless task of pushing and pulling, stretching and straining. He counts his sets and reps with familiarity, unthreatened by a one-rep max or tight supersets. He's 40, in good shape -- no gut, sufficient muscle and strength, no need for guns or striations -- loves his wife and kids and wraps up his stress in neat piles of iron and steel. He reads Newsweek between sets (you frown on this, but...) and will pull out his cell phone any minute if no one huffs at him. You don't know his name either. How about Captain America?
Taking the gym away from the next woman would be cruel and unusual punishment. She loves this stuff like a geologist loves rocks and digs around barbells and dumbbells with similar interest and intent. A female bulldozer, moving, unearthing, piling, shifting and replacing. Metal goes up and down, cables and pulleys load and unload; she tugs and stacks, pushes and racks. Every bodypart is worked with precision and passion and the effect on the 40-something structure is inspiring -- a strong, well-balanced and sculpted form natural as gleaming river rock. You can call her Sue, but that's not her name.
Nearby, you can't help but notice the big guy who comes from work every day at the same time. He cruises the stationary bike for 20 minutes, mixes his abs with his stretching for 10 and hits a total of 20 sets of weighted exercises. He wants results bad -- power, size, shape and muscularity -- and is consistent in his efforts. Been nine years and he's done his share of research and experimentation. He's doing fine, though he could use less mind, more heart and increased intensity.
Truth is the man wrestles with a demon: he smokes like a chimney and can't stop. It's killing him, he knows it. Too many years on the sucking end of a Camel; the household and his companions smoke and he hasn't been cut deep enough... yet.
"I neither win nor lose the fight," he says, the thought being that training and right eating sort of neutralize or diminish the negative effects of the sticks. "I'll just keep plugging along and quit when the time is right."
Yeah. I've been there with the booze, Smokey. Time flies! Extinguish the butt before the butt extinguishes you.
That guy by the adjustable incline is new; that is, you've never seen him before. He's spent time in a gym in the past; you can tell by the way he moves, though you guess it's been years. Like riding a bike, he has the approach down, but he's a little wobbly making it up the hills. Guessing again, you think he needs to accept his extended absence from the weights and adjust to his less-than-impressive return: very difficult, mostly disappointing and painfully instructive. If he's got the mettle, he'll stick it out. He's 30-ish, carrying a spare, probably married with a kid or two and at least one job. Zorba referred to the situation as "the whole catastrophe."
Nothing will be more valuable to him and his family than his successful re-entry into the world of health and fitness, exercise and eating right. I'll spare you the rhetoric. Let's just say it's more valuable than a hefty pay raise, a sparkling new sports car, a college degree in this 'n that, a case of Bomber Blend (close call) or a cozy lakeside bungalow.
Good luck, Charlie Brown. The world is counting on you -- you and all you former dropouts from Nova Scotia to San Juan, from the Straits to the Keys, Baghdad to Buenos Aires.
Isn't it a thrill, bombers, to fly above the turbulence, know where you're going and why? The fuel's not free, the stabilizers need occasional adjustment and the cockpit is a little tight at times... but we soar, by God.
Let 'er rip... DD
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